Why are providers disrespectful and just damn mean to each other

[Olivia]

(too each other)
I really don't understand why, so many girls rude to each other...It really doesn't surprise me, I have found that in most careers, business, you find this typical women, berating each other, gossiping, back-stabbing, and are the last to take up for and help each other...I have never understand that. And it is sad to say the escort business is the same....I hardley ever get a reponse on a reference check, the girls just don't get back with me....And as important everyones safety is, you would think there would be more respect for each other...
I have had a highly professinoal career for 11years, and have nevereleft a call unawsered, or let people waiting...I am also really not sure, sitting at home, would work for me. Idle time, makes idle minds.
Well it has been hard being new, and every wall slammed in my face, opened a new one, I screen my own clients, make my own decisions, CYUA, and I will always go out of my way to provide referencess as needed.

Is this pretty much a mutal dislike for each other in Memphis, and no-one gives references, returns calls or emails. I find that when checking references from other cities are states, have reposonding properly. The clients have to put off, or a risk has to be taken...As dangerous as the world is today, you would think we could work together on a professional level, and help each other................Sadly I have also been notified by several respect hobbyist, that I have been bad-mouthed, by people who have never met me????Go figure.....................O

[Dataman]

It looks like it is the nature of the business these days.

Not a provider but hear plenty of ladies discuss it. It's both a combination of jealeousness and sheer meanness. I think some would love to see the competition go under and in Memphis it seems doublely so.

The pressures today of LE attention and all the new people coming into the business (both guys and ladies) causes one to be concerned, but the continued issues between ladies seems to be damaging the success of many.

Hope things improve for you, Olivia.

Dataman

[tammy4u]

Olivia..........what you are going thru is just Memphis - I have, in my 5 years of doing this, never felt comfortable enough to ask another provider here for a reference. And people who use me as a reference that I have not seen but once and it was over 6 months, I cannot give a reference on because I don't remember them and can't give an honest opinion.

You and I both know it is very slow right now, and with all of the newbies coming in and people traveling, it has become a very competitive business.

I have been having to deal with things (and I'm sure you know what I am talking about) for over a year now, and I have to bite my tongue alot of times. In fact, you watch, it will probably happen here also.

The biz has gotten really tough over the last year, and just my luck since I lost my job last May and just bought a house. But life goes on. I have lost some very good clients that I'd seen for quite a while and very apprehensive about getting new clients because of all of the activity going on.

It is a dog eat dog world nowadays, but hopefully will take a turn for the better here soon.

Hugs
Tammy

[MeganLove]

You two ladies seem sincere when you post. If it makes you feel better, there are true women in the biz, you just have to weed through them to find the honest and sincere ones. WE are out there.....It's easy to get caught up in drama, but once you're in it , it effects your business and your life..And your life is far more important to YOU than anyone else. You can only look out for YOU....

Stay positive and good things will happen in my honest opinion :)


xoxoxox


Megan

[majemi]

It's due to competition, jealousy, and insecurity. I also think the size of Memphis plays a part. It stands to reason that smaller cities have a smaller local client pool. Ladies from out of town or out of state don't see you as a threat to their business so they're much more willing to help.

[Dataman]

In these times I am sure that you ladies get plenty of BS emails from guys. Hell, I see many guys posting on the board from the Memphis area I have never heard of so I am sure that checking on them and weeding them out takes a lot of work.

The traveling posts by ladies has increased but I am sure that most trips don't materialize due to guys not following through on appointments , etc. I have even emailed some with my interest and never heard back from them. I really to feel for you all. One thing about Memphis that is true is the general population is poorer and more working class than Nashville. Maybe some will be getting their Tax refund checks soon. LOL.

On another point, I was wondering if it was just me or are we seeing a substantial increase in newbies (both guys and ladies). Is this because of the increased attention given to escort boards lately?

[Madison Jones]

That everyone talks about everyone and the ones that complain are just as guilty as the rest sorry but true we all do it. It's competiveness and jealousy I my self had a hard time if not harder time than anyone when I started out. I try to put the catty comments to me and towards me behind me. I do have someone who copies and changes her post after everything I do is this aggravating? Yes but shes a good lady so I say well maybe you should just be flattered maybe your doing something right. Well at least it's a nicer way to look at it. lol It's getting pretty I got alot of things I want to do and so should you. SOOOOOO let's make love not war :lovebus: Meg you got a great site I like it not being a drama site so should we all